Bücher von Alfie Kohn

A groundbreaking approach to parenting by nationally-respected educator Alfie Kohn that gives parents ';powerful alternatives to help children become their most caring, responsible selves' (Adele Faber, New York Times bestselling author) by switching the dynamic from doing things to children to working with them in order to understand their needs and how to meet them.Most parenting guides begin with the question ';How can we get kids to do what they're told?' and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking, ';What do kids needand how can we meet those needs?' What follows from that question are ideas for working with children rather than doing things to them. One basic need all children have, Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or fall short. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including ';time-outs'), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. Kohn cites a body of powerful, and largely unknown, research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. That's precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though it's not the message most parents intend to send. More than just another book about discipline, though, Unconditional Parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from ';doing to' to ';working with' parentingincluding how to replace praise with the unconditional support that children need to grow into healthy, caring, responsible people. This is an eye-opening, paradigm-shattering book that will reconnect readers to their own best instincts and inspire them to become better parents.

The basic strategy we use for raising children, teaching students, and managing workers can be summarised in six words: Do this and you'll get that. We dangle goodies (from candy bars to sales commissions) in front of people in much the same way that we train the family pet.

Was denken Eltern über ihre Kinder? Was empfinden sie für ihre Kinder? Wie handeln sie?Liebe und Eigenständigkeit ermuntert uns, genau hinzuschauen. Das lohnt sich, denn es gibt einen Weg, unsere Kinder respektvoll und in Liebe zu begleiten. Ein Weg, der uns in einen tiefen und klaren Kontakt mit unseren Kindern bringt und uns sogar über die Zeit der Pubertät hinaus mit unseren Kindern zu verbinden vermag.Doch noch fragen wir uns häufig, wie wir es erreichen können, dass unsere Kinder das tun, was wir von ihnen wollen. Genau hier stecken wir in den Sackgassen gewohnter Erziehungsversuche fest. Alfie Kohn steht uns zur Seite, indem er mit den Mythen und Wunschvorstellungen eingefahrener Erziehungslehren aufräumt und uns an jenen Punkt zurückführt, an dem das Fragen wirklich Sinn macht: "Was brauchen Kinder und wie können wir diese Bedürfnisse erfüllen?"Ein Grundbedürfnis aller Kinder ist es, bedingungslos geliebt zu werden. Zu wissen, dass sie auch dann angenommen sind, wenn sie mal voll aufdrehen oder wenn ihnen etwas misslingt. Übliche Erziehungsmethoden wie Bestrafung oder Belohnung versagen an dieser Stelle. Sie setzen auf Kontrolle und vermitteln unseren Kindern so, dass sie nur dann geliebt werden, wenn sie uns gefallen oder wenn sie uns beeindrucken.Alfie Kohn verweist auf umfassende aber wenig bekannte Forschungsergebnisse, die belegen, welchen Schaden es anrichten kann, Kindern den Eindruck zu vermitteln, sie müssten sich unsere Anerkennung "verdienen". Denn das ist die Botschaft, die den meisten der heute weit verbreiteten Erziehungsmethoden zugrunde liegt - ob wir es wollen oder nicht.Eine Vielzahl praktischer Beispiele rundet Liebe und Eigenständigkeit ab. Sie zeigen uns ganz alltagsbezogen, wie wir mit Kindern zusammenarbeiten können, statt sie nur als Objekte zu behandeln. Sie zeigen uns, wie wir Lob durch bedingungslose Unterstützung ersetzen können - jenes Elixier, das Kinder so sehr brauchen, um zu gesunden, warmherzigen und verantwortungsbewussten Menschen heranzuwachsen.

In this 10th anniversary edition of an ASCD best seller, author Alfie Kohn reflects on his innovative ideas about replacing traditional discipline programs, in which things are done to students to control how they act, with a collaborative approach, in which we work with students to create caring communities. Features a new afterword by the author.

Few writers ask us to question our fundamental assumptions about education as provocatively as Alfie Kohn. Time magazine has called him'perhaps the country's most outspoken critic of education's fixation on grades [and] test scores.' And the Washington Post says he is 'the most energetic and charismatic figure standing in the way of a major federal effort to make standardized curriculums and tests a fact of life in every U.S. school.'In this new collection of essays, Kohn takes on some of the most important and controversial topics in education of the last few years. His central focus is on the real goals of education-a topic, he argues, that we systematically ignore while lavishing attention on misguided models of learning and counterproductive techniques of motivation.The shift to talking about goals yields radical conclusions and wonderfully pungent essays that only Alfie Kohn could have written. From the title essay's challenge to conventional, conservative definitions of a good education to essays on standards and testing and grades that tally the severe educational costs of overemphasizing a narrow conception of achievement, Kohn boldly builds on his earlier work and writes for a wide audience. Kohn's new book will be greeted with enthusiasm by his many readers and by any teacher or parent looking for a refreshing perspective on today's debates about schools.