Bücher von Dariush Pourkian

One day, amidst my growing complaints to my mother about my father's lifestyle, he found it necessary to have a heart-to-heart with me. While planting a tree in our garden, he shared a profound insight: "In society, there are only two kinds of people; lambs and wolves. Lambs are perpetually preyed upon and killed, whereas wolves hunt and advance." He then posed a stark question: "Do you wish to be a lamb or a wolf?" Initially bewildered by his abrupt query, I pondered before responding, "Perhaps something in-between." His reply was swift and certain, "There is no middle ground, only these two. Show mercy and you'll be devoured in this world." This conversation was a turning point in understanding my father's complex character - his occasional harshness and rudeness, juxtaposed with moments of thoughtfulness. He maintained his gentle treatment of others, revealing a nuanced perspective of the constant struggle and conflict in human interactions. This book is my endeavour to document the events and experiences I have personally witnessed. It serves as a tapestry of social history, reflecting the intricate dance between the 'lambs' and 'wolves' of our society. My purpose in writing this book is only to record the events and things that I've witnessed with my own eyes.

Every time I attended a wedding for a reason, I noticed that despite all prior talks and agreements, the wedding ceremony was again carried out with great difficulty, and the couple endured many troubles to be able to get together. It was not because of not having a home and a lack of income, or due to the legal age for marriage, but the customs of the time, the condition of parental consent and their meddling in their child's future life, or even the influence of the bride and groom siblings, were the main reasons to lead the simple routine of marriage in a bumpy and misled way, and even prevent it from happening. I'd already written about my cousin in a family context in my diary. After reading it again, I realized what interesting and surprising, and at the same time painful, points there were during their marriage. For this reason, I decided to write about this event, which might be considered as a sample for other marriages, in a separate book in detail, called Marriage, The Iranian Style, so that the unpleasant parts can be reflected on.