Bücher von Mary Crocker Cook

Time to put the oxygen mask on!I have spent more than 25 years training chemical dependency counselors and they are my favorite people. For the most part, they're either in personal addiction recovery or they are family members who have been touched by the chaos of addiction. The very passion that brings us to this work is the potential foundation for burnout and relapse if those issues are not identified and addressed throughout a counselor's career. I plan to address codependency from early attachment disruption perspective, which results in both codependent behaviors as well as immune system damage. When I see counselors relapse or abruptly leave a career they trained to enter I always wonder about the triggers they faced that they couldn't manage without imploding. Our clients and co-workers can put their finger on our unhealed wounds on a regular basis due to our ability to identify with them. In fact, our identification is a mixed blessing. I can draw compassion from my ability to identify. I can also step into my own blind spots and reactivity that may go unchecked without proper support and awareness. Working with a cognitively impaired, emotionally reactive and defensive population with profound trust issues is a challenge that only people with a calling will enter and remain. This book addresses the challenges and offers tools to help talented counselors remain in the addiction counseling profession. We need you. About the Author: Mary Crocker Cook, D.Min., LMFT, LPCC, LAADC, CADCII is the co-owner of Connections Counseling Associates in San Jose California, and is the Program Coordinator for the San Jose City College Alcohol and Drug Studies program she developed in 1990. Mary has authored five other texts: Awakening Hope. A Developmental Behavioral, Biological Approach to Codependency; Afraid to Let Go. For Parents of Adult Addicts and Alcoholics; Codependency and Men; Welcome to My World, and The Work Goes On. For more information visit: www.marycrockercook.com Books printed in the US and the UK.

You are not Codependent simply because your adult child is an addict or alcoholic.All parents of addicted children of any age are terrified, confused, feel out of control, lose sleep, dread the phone calls at3:00 in the morning. This book is for parents who are Afraid to Let Go because they do not know how to set boundaries with their adult children without feeling crippling anxiety, or walling themselves off to make separation possible. You can’t “let go.” You can’t “detach with love.” You can’t let them “hit bottom.” You can’t seem to implement the strategies you have learned when you are faced with your adult child’s chaos and anxiety. When you try to do this, it makes you physically and emotionally ill, and the anxiety and fear becomes unbearable. Why can’t you just “let go”? If you are struggling with Codependency, your relationship with your child is not be the only relationship where you experience a loss of self, over-reactivity, adrenalin rushes when you feel “out of control,” or behave intrusively or impulsively to “help” in situations even when your assistance has not been requested. If you are Codependent, this is not the first relationship in which you have “over-given” and then felt resentful, or sacrificed yourself to give someone what you decided they “needed” because if you don’t, “who will”?Afraid to Let Go explores the developmental origins of Codependency that lead to painful behavioral reactivity in response to our addicted adult children. Afraid to Let Go then connects the chronic stress of the chaos of addiction with adrenal system damage, and points you toward concrete behavioral changes you can make to heal regardless of the sobriety of your adult child. About the author:Mary Crocker Cook, D.Min., LMFT, CADCII is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with extensive experience working with addicted families over the last 20 years. She is the author of “Awakening Hope. A Developmental, Behavioral and Biological Approach to Codependency Treatment,” and coordinates the Alcohol and Drug Studies Program at San Jose City College in San Jose, California.

Awakening Hope (Updated Edition - 2018)Since the release of the 2011 edition Mary has delved deeper into the neurological and structural brain changes that result from early trauma and interrupted attachment. While the previous edition identified the impact on the immune system that can make Codependency so deadly, Mary felt it was important to draw from the Kaiser ACE (Adverse Child Experiences) Study to clearly demonstrate the connection between interrupted early attachment and adult immune system damage. As a result the 2018 edition of Awakening Hope fills in important areas in the third area of Codependency, the biological area.This updated edition also adds a new attachment quiz, Dr. Wilson's Adrenal Fatigue Questionnaire, Responses to Stressful Experiences Scale, and expands biological chapters to discuss Normal Stress and Immune Responses, Allostasis and the Upside of Adversity, Neurological Biology of Attachment and Love, and the Impact of Interrupted Attachment on Neurology. In addition, Mary has included additional emotional regulation interventions.Awakening Hope speaks to the need for an evolving treatment approach to a serious disorder that has previously been primarily addressed from a behavioral perspective. Awakening Hope is based on the premise that Codependency stems from early attachment disruptions, leading to ongoing anxious and avoidant attachment styles. These styles create a series of defensive behaviors in response to a foundational distrust of attachment that pervades every relationship. The frequent perceptions of attachment threat can lead to serious depletion of the adrenal system, and results in systemic and chronic illness.You will discover: Explanations for lifelong patterns of anxiety in relationships that are grounded in research and clinical experience. Long established behavior patterns in relationships will "make sense" and you will have access to a clear path for change. The physical consequences of these long term patterns, and clearly see the connections between your anxious or avoidant codependent behaviors and physical illnesses that compromise your quality of life. A clear structure for treatment planning and relapse prevention planning is provided for personal use and clinical use by therapist treating codependent clients.The Author:Mary Crocker Cook, D.Min., LMFT, LPCC, LAADC, CADCII is a licensed Marriage and Family Counselor and a certified addiction counselor in San Jose, California. She is a national and international educator and trainer. In addition, she developed and coordinates the San Jose City College Alcohol and Drug Studies Program.