Bücher von Sue Fagalde Lick

Although the title, Gravel Road Ahead, hints at what's in store, readers may not be prepared for the heart-wrenching journey ahead. When poet Sue Fagalde Lick and her husband Fred left their careers in Silicon Valley for a new home on the Oregon Coast, they thought all their dreams were coming true. Then Fred, a former city administrator and part-time tax preparer, started forgetting things. In moving poems that range from darkly humorous to heart-breaking, Sue is unflinchingly honest in her chronicling of both the bitter and the sweet moments as she accompanies her husband of 25 years down the circuitous path of Alzheimer's disease. For those traveling this road with a loved one, Lick's a guide to be trusted, offering a lifeline of patience and forbearance gleaned from their journey. But there's plenty of insight here for any couple growing older together-and a reminder of just what we sign on for when we repeat "I do."

First you marry a man who does not want children. He cheats and you divorce him. Then you marry the love of your life and find out he does not want to have children with you either. The three he has are more than enough. Although you always wanted to be a mother, you decide he is worth the sacrifice, expecting to have a long happy life together. But that''s not what happens. This is the story of how a woman becomes childless by marriage and how it affects every aspect of her life. This is the book of my heart, the one I had to write. Ever since I realized I was not going to have children, I have felt recurring grief and an emptiness in my heart. I am different from most women, but I have found that I am not alone. There are many of us childless women, and I think it''s important to share our stories about what it''s like when you don''t have children in a world where most girls grow up to become mothers. I hope this book offers comfort to those who are childless and understanding to those who are not. If it makes you smile here and there, even better.

It''s like this giant secret that is right in front of everyone. One in five women and even more men don''t have children-at least not their own. For more than half of them, it was not by choice. Their partners a) never wanted children, b) already had kids from a previous relationship, c) never quite felt ready for parenthood, d) had had a vasectomy, or e) had fertility problems. They are forced to make a choice between this man or woman they love and the children they might have had. Love or Children features the best of more than 700 posts and comments from the Childless by Marriage blog. Sue Fagalde Lick and her readers unveil situations and feelings they wouldn''t dare tell their families, friends, partners, or even their therapists. 

Nearly one million Portuguese Americans live in California, immigrants or the descendants of immigrants who left poverty behind to seek a better life. Stories Grandma Never Told collects the accounts of the women who settled a foreign land, facing a new language, new customs, and new expectations about their roles as wives, mothers, and workers. Here, too, are the stories of their daughters and granddaughters, and their own struggles to reconcile old-country ways and morality with American lives and identity.